Men are from venus, women are from mars … erm hang on.

19 Nov 2009 1 Comment

by chyldeofthenorns in submission

A large number of my blog list are about male submissives, either written by them or by their owners. In Mistress’s various searches for the right male slave i have seen and known many.

I am slowly coming to the conclusion that they are pretty much a completly seperate species than female submissives. They baffle me. Sex seems to be the key component in containing them, many of the blogs i read.. in fact all but one that involves a male submissive seem to show heavy use of chastity devices like this..  clicky the linky.

For males it seems to be the denial of orgasm or in fact any sexual activity that controls them. In fact i read in one blog and i can’t remember which one now about the male need to orgasm every now and then to prevent ” blue ball” and about letting the male slave in question sit in the corner and stroke one off every now and then to prevent physical problems.  That kind of tone in saying that makes me think of male subs as no better than a primate in some extent.

Female submissives however… its an entirely different thing, working on emotional control, physical control, whipping, flogging, assplay and internal enslavement. The change in the female submissive which trains them to replace their own will of that of their owners. The wish to please and do as the owner wishes above her own desires. For a female it does not give any physical problems if orgasm is denied however never in any of my blogs does the owner of a female completly take control of the females sexuality to the point of using it to solely control the submission. Owners of female slaves seem to want to engage, humiliate and bring their good girl and turn her into a depraved harlot for their own use.It is emotional control that is used to control the female slave. The teasing and threat of physical discipline, teasing, dissapointment love and the need for the Owner.

Pictures in blogs by Female Dominants of male slaves that i have seen seem to be in the vain of belittling and turning to humour a males sexual desire and the action of wanking. Yet for those that control a female slave it seems to be pictures of the slave showing of their femininity, the beauty of slavery and pictures in physically pleasing poses often accompanied by marks on the slaves body.

Are male slaves really so led by their dick and sexual desire. Do they really get off on being complelty belittled? In all the blogs i have read of male submissives they are married and have Mistress wives. That prompts me to another point… Can men only really be truely submissive if married or having a life long commitment to a relationship with their Female. And honestly i can say this.. apart from those who partake in the club scene all the male slaves/subs i have known or read about do need that.  They get jealous or possesive of other males. However those who deal with cuckolding…. maybe its just me, but they are all married to the Woman.

Those who share in a poly relationship however seem to be different.. Or at least capable of sharing in a relationship. Though most often with a secondary female. But then.. women aren’t posed as a threat. Why is that? does it really come down to the fact women traditionally cannot penetrate? Because quite frankly these days that is just *not* true. Women can penetrate just as much as a male.. Thanks to innovation in strap ons we can even ejaculate now. No longer are toys just consigned to being inflexible rubber beasts, you can now get ones that act and imitate the movements of a real male penis.  I would think the threat from another female would be greater because of the wielding of all amazing, all visually pleasing, vibrating, thrusting, spurting toys and strap ons.

Do men need the reassurance of love and a kind of possesion over their Owner? Because i am coming to the conclusion that they are. I am also coming to the conclusion that love, and the desire for sex can affect complelty a males ability to be submissive. And is a males need for love and a named kind of possesion.. ie relationship, partner, husband.. on an equal level needed too?

You know what? Women masturbate.. we use porn, we sit and eye up males , and other women as the case may be ( at least with me), we are sexual creatures too and yet we don’t lower in mental capacity to that of a primate when we have been denied. We don’t *need* sex.. the denial of, the act of.. etc to be controlled. We don’t need to be so reassured in love that we are raised even just in name to the status of an equal.  I don’t get why men do. It annoys me actually.. I hate the generalisation.. but even the smartest man is led by his dick. ( Or seems to be).

If i went around doing that ( or rather my sexual drive and my clit rather than dick) it would not impress or be seen as good behaviour. If i got frustrated because i could not stroke the sausage.. or touch and enjoy my owner physically i would be punished.. With men.. its expected. Seems unfair to me. Women have the same desires as men. I know i have the same desires to want to touch and please my Owner, i want to feel Her skin, i want to lick Her, i want Her to have Her way with me, i want to know i am loved and good enough for Her, i have the same desire to be inside Her that any man does.

It really bugs me when men get special treatment because of that primate dick led reaction.

I don’t mean to come of as pissed off lesbian or feminist. I realise i might. I love men ( well certain men), i love sex with men etc.  but it kind of bugs me about male submissives.. especially the notion that men need breaking in and women just don’t.  Women as a submissive group just seem more able to behave.