BDSM checklist.

Sir Maarek showed me a checklist from a blog he reads and thought it would be interesting to fill in as i seem to being pushed a lot lately.. In my more slavish .. mode, all hard limits move to soft limits, and all soft limits move to rating 1.

No, hard limit that under no circumstances will I do

0 – Soft limit.. Utterly no desire to do act, and don’t like doing it, usually objecting to it.. but would do if ordered.

1 – holds no interest and holds some fear but will if ordered you don’t want to do or like to do this activity but you would not object if asked.

2 – holds a small amount of interest but fear too. Means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 – means you usually like doing this activity, at least on
an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 – you like doing this activity, and would like to
experience it on a regular basis.

5 – means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you
would like it as often as possible.

experience yes/ no ( have or havn’t tried it)

• further info into the activity. Shown at bottom of the list.

• *** Some of the activities I have experienced in a non sexual way.. IE, injections, speculums, cathatarisation.

Area/Type Experience Willingness
of Activity YES or NO NO or 0-5

Abrasion YES : 2

Age Play* YES: 5

Anal Sex YES: 5

Anal Plugs (small) YES : 4

Anal Plugs (large) YES : 4

Anal Plug (public, under clothes) NO : 3

Animal Roles NO : NO

Arm & Leg Sleeves (armbinders) YES : 4

Asphyxiation NO : 2

Auctioned for Charity NO : 1

Bathroom Use Control YES : 3

Beating (soft) YES : 5

Beating (hard) YES: 5

Blindfolds YES : 5

Being Serviced (sexual) YES : 3

Being Bitten YES : 5

Breast/Chest Bondage NO : 3

Breath Control YES: 5

Branding NO : 3

Boot Worship NO : 2

Bondage (light) YES : 5

Bondage (heavy) YES : 5

Bondage (multi-day) NO : 5

Bondage (public, under clothing) NO : 2

Breast Whipping YES : 5

Cages (locked inside of) NO : 2

Caning YES : 4

Catheterization YES : NO

Cells/Closets (locked inside of) NO : 2

Chastity Belts NO : 2

Chauffeuring NO : 3

Choking NO : 2

Clothespins YES : 3

Cock Worship YES : 4

Collars (worn in private) YES : 5

Collars (worn in public) YES : 5

Competitions (with other Subs) NO : 2

Corsets (wearing) YES : 5

Cuffs (leather) YES : 5

Cuffs (metal) YES : 5

Cutting YES : 1

Dilation NO : 2

Double Penetration YES : 5

Electricity NO : 1

Enemas NO : 0

Enforced Chastity YES : 2

Examinations (physical) YES : 1

Exercise (forced/required) YES : 1

Exhibitionism (friends) YES : 4

Exhibitionism (strangers) NO : 2

Eye Contact Restrictions YES : 5

Face Slapping YES : 3

Fantasy Abandonment YES : 1

Fantasy Rape YES : 2

Fantasy Gang-Rape NO : 2

Fisting (anal) NO : 2

Fisting (vaginal) NO : 3

Following Orders YES : 5

Foot Worship NO : 1

Forced Dressing NO : 3

Forced Homosexuality NO : 0

Forced Masturbation YES : 4

Forced Nudity (private) YES : 4

Forced Nudity (around others) NO : 2

Forced Servitude YES : 5

Full Head Hoods NO : 1

Gags (cloth) YES : 5

Gags (rubber) NO : 5

Gags (tape) NO : 5

Gates of Hell (male)

Genital Sex YES : 5

Given Away to Another Dom (temp) YES: 1

Given Away to Another Dom (perm) NO : 1

Golden Showers NO : 0

Hairbrush Spankings YES : 5

Hair Pulling YES : 5

Hand Jobs (giving) YES : 4

Hand Jobs (receiving) YES : 4

Harems (serving w/other subs) YES : 5

Harnessing (leather) YES : 3

Harnessing (rope) NO : 3

Having Food Chosen for You NO : 4

Having Clothing Chosen for You NO : 5

Head (giving fellatio) YES : 5

Head (receiving cunnilingus) YES : 5

High Heel Worship NO : 1

Homage with Tongue (non-sexual) YES : 4

Hot Oils (on genitals) NO : 2

Hot Waxing NO : 1

Housework (doing) YES : 4

Human Puppy Dog NO : 3

Humiliation (private) YES : 5

Humiliation (public) NO : 3

Hypnotism NO : 1

Ice Cubes YES : 3

Infantalism NO : NO

Initiation Rites NO : 1

Injections YES : 0

Intricate (Japanese) Rope Bondage NO : 3

Interrogations NO : 1

Kidnapping NO : 1

Kneeling YES : 5

Leather Clothing YES : 3

Leather Restraints YES : 5

Lectures for Misbehavior YES : 5

Licking (non-sexual) YES : 5

Manacles & Irons NO : 3

Manacures (giving) YES : 5

Massage (giving) YES : 5

Massage (receiving) YES : 5

Medical Scenes NO : 0

Modeling for Erotic Photos YES : 2

Mouth Bits NO : 0

Mummification NO : 0

Nipple Clamps YES : 4

Nipple Weights NO : 2

Oral Anal Play (rimming) NO : 0

Over-the-Knee Spanking YES : 5

Orgasm Denial YES : 4

Orgasm Control YES : 5

Outdoor Scenes YES : 3

Outdoor Sex YES : 3

Phone Sex (serving Dom) YES : 5

Phone Sex (serving Dom’s friends) NO : 2

Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) NO : 1

Piercing (permanant) YES : 1

Prison Scenes NO : 1

Pony Slave NO : 0

Public Exposure NO : 2

Pussy/Cock Whipping YES : 4

Pussy Worship YES : 5

Riding Crops YES : 5

Riding the “Horse” (crotch torture) NO : 1

Rituals NO : 1

Religious Scenes NO : 1

Restrictive Rules on Behavior YES : 5

Rubber/Latex Clothing NO : 3

Rope Body Harness NO : 3

Saran Wrapping NO : 1

Scratching (getting) YES : 5

Scratching (giving) YES : 3

Sensory Deprivation YES : 5

Serving YES : 5

Serving as Art NO : 3

Serving as Ashtray NO : 0

Serving as Furniture YES : 3

Serving as a Maid YES : 4

Serving as Toilet NO : NO

Serving as Waitress/Waiter YES : 5

Serving Orally (sexual) YES : 5

Serving Other Doms (supervised) YES : 5

Serving Other Doms (unsupervised) NO : 3

Sexual Deprivation (short term) YES : 4

Sexual Deprivation (long term) NO : 2

Shaving (body hair) YES : 3

Shaving (head hair) NO : 0

Sleep Deprivation NO : 1

Sleepsacks NO : 0

Slutty Clothing (private) YES : 3

Slutty Clothing (public) NO : 2

Spanking YES : 5

Spandex Clothing NO : 1

Speech Restrictions (when, what) YES : 5

Speculums (Anal) NO : 0

Speculums (vaginal) YES : 0

Spreader Bars YES : 3

Standing in Corner YES : 3

Stocks NO : 1

Straight Jackets NO : 0

Strap-on-Dildos (sucking on) YES : 5

Strap-on-Dildos (penetrated by) YES : 5

Strap-on-Dildos (wearing) YES : 3

Strapping (full body beating) NO : 3

Suspension (upright) NO : 2

Suspension (inverted) NO : 1

Suspension (horizontal) NO : 1

Supplying New Partners for Dom NO : 0

Swallowing Semen YES : 3

Swallowing Urine NO : NO

Swapping (with one other couple) NO : 1

Swinging (multiple couples) NO : 1

Tattooing NO : 3

Teasing YES: 5

Tickling YES : 3

Triple Penetration YES : 5

Uniforms YES : 3

Including Others YES : 4

Vaginal Dildo YES : 5

Verbal Humiliation YES : 5

Vibrator on Genitals YES : 5

Voyeurism (watching others) YES : 5

Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) YES : 5

Video (watching others) YES : 5

Video (recordings of you) NO : 1

Water Torture NO : 0

Wearing Symbolic Jewelery YES : 5

Whipping YES : 5

Wooden Paddles YES : 5

Wrestling NO : 1

*Wikipedia describes Ageplay as a form of regressive roleplay in which a physical adult takes on the role of a child. This may be purely regressive (in order to re-experience childhood in a non-sexual sense), or sexual (the roleplaying of a child/adult relationship in sex, which may be a sexual fetish and is often grouped within BDSM).

Roleplaying adult/child scenarios sexually is controversial as it can arouse concern in many people’s minds, due to the sensitive nature of its subject matter. However as with other sexual fantasy it is not, by itself, necessarily a problem, and can be for some, a healthy or healing outlet, and for others like any fantasy an exploration of different roles and feelings.

The term ageplay can be used as a standard roleplay term, but generally ageplay is a form of emotional regression. Some enjoy ageplay because they feel a need to express a childlike side, others may feel they are of a psychological age younger than their physical age, and some have dissociative child personalities (see dissociative identity disorder). Many people consider their “inner child,” a very real part of themselves. When in a submissive role to a dominant partner, the person in the child-like headspace may be referred to as an IK (inner kid) or IC (inner child).

Ageplay may be as simple as time spent alone pursuing “childlike” activities such as playing games or watching cartoons, or as complex as an entire lifestyle built around living as a child, with a guardian, to the fullest extent possible. When in role, a regressive ageplayer will often feel and react like a real child. For some it may feel upsetting or even emotionally damaging to be treated as an adult when in their child role or headspace (a term sometimes used to indicate when someone is fully immersed in their child role).

A child personality may be referred to as a little to differentiate from the adult persona (big, bigperson, B or BP). The Internet provides a rich source of community for ageplayers, who usually seek a guardian or other “littles” to play with, and there are many online ageplaying communities.
I like being Mistresss’s little girl, I like being able to run with my innocence and I like the way she treats me as her girl. I do not like and it would be a large hard limit for me to play out adult child scenarios during sex.. ie the whole daddys little girl thing.

~ by chyldeofthenorns on February 23, 2009.